If you follow my blog, you know that I do my best to try and promote positive body-image (with a little self-love 101). I also try to discourage negative self-talk & body shaming which seems to be making so many of us miserable. It’s a freaking epidemic.
Aside from media pressure, there are a LOT of ways we inadvertently encourage body shaming in our daily lives. Here are just a few.
For one, we use physical appearance as a way to compliment each other and to lift someone’s spirits (You look great! Have you lost weight? New haircut? Love it!). We also criticize each other’s bodies at alarming levels (she’s too skinny, she’s too fat, she shouldn’t wear that, look at her cellulite). Little girls get messages from everything around them: we simultaneously tell them that looks shouldn’t matter, yet emphasize looks all the time. We try to tell little girls to love their bodies, yet criticize ours in the mirror while we dress for work (they’re watching & listening to every conversation you have with your girlfriends about which body parts you hate also).
Every girl learns to hate her body by watching other women hate theirs or hate on each other’s.
We tell little girls how pretty they are, over any other attribute they may have. It’s usually the first thing out of our mouths when we see a little girl, or get a chance to say howdy. Look how pretty you are...
In the article below, the author provides an example of how to take ‘looks’ out of the equation when speaking with little girls. It’s challenging (I mean, they really ARE cute sometimes), but if we truly want ‘looks’ not to matter, we need to stop emphasizing how important they are.
Get Her Off On The Right Foot: How To Talk To Little Girls (Via Huffington Post)